Dmen

First of all, to Voltron:

I'm gonna give Junie Voltron Santos a break. Word to the defender of the universe, don't make me go there again. Please set reasonable goals for the improvement of your life. If you start screwing up again like making idiotic excuses to cut class, I will smite you and make you snap to voltron planet. You better finish up this school year. Stop wasting your life with what you think is cool! Goddammit Junie, pag hindi mo inayos talaga yan buhay mo, putangina! We are all getting sick of hearing about your wild ideas. You're going to get a job to date around?! what the fuck?! you dont even attend your graphic class, do you? Fuck its been five goddamn years, when will we hear the end of it? Pare, pag hindi ikaw nagseryoso sa buhay... Here's the deal, ill stop with all those prado-voltron-junie-jungay-santos basta mag-ayos ka. And listen to your mom!

What part of so suave didnt you get?! Everything there was about self-improvement, a clear goal, ambition, and making yourself a person worthy. And what the fuck did you? You skipped everything. You think that you're following those things religiously? Laughing about your life can be funny but now its getting fucking irritating. Ikaw ha, tama na yang pagtatarantado mo, dahil malapit ka na makarinig hindi lang sakin, pati na sa lahat, nagtitiis lang sila hindi magsalita kaya dinadaan nalang namin sa voltron at Junie Santos. Kung gusto mo tigilan kita gaguhin, tigilan mo na yang kalokohan mo. You're really a piece of work arent you. Fuck this shit jun! Its exasperating to write more.. Pagnagkita tayo siguraduhin mo..

and for dating words of wisdom(jun this is not for you, kumino ka nalang gago)

DATING WORDS OF WISDOM

Memorize each of the following and you will be WAY ahead of most
of the guys out there, i.e. your competition.


Never look down after making eye contact -- this is a sign of
submission.

Want to talk to that gorgeous girl who is so hot? Do it now. If
things don't end up the way you want to, then at least you can
sleep easily and you can focus on new and different projects. 

Not approaching a girl actually feels worse than getting
rejected. 

Never ask a woman to become exclusive. She must ask YOU. She must
talk about it FIRST. 

When I got their name, I'd use it constantly. Women think their
name is the most important word in the world. 

DJs know not all girls are worth dating. 

Convince the girl that she is more interested in you than you are
in her. 

Trust me on this one, a confident elephant man swimming in a pool
of dung, is more attractive than an insecure Tom Cruise. 

Shy people THINK too much. Shy people react to situations when
they should be acting/initiating. 

Most women don't go for guys who "love" them. They go for guys
who excite them, frighten them, give them an adrenaline rush, and
can keep them all moist by acting like real men. 

Single women go on dates to have a good time, not to be serious.
Keep this in mind and never act serious on the first few
dates. 

Don't ever say "I don't know, what do you want to do?"

End the date before she does. When you first start dating, it is
important to avoid that awkward time when it is getting late and
she finally has to announce that it is time for her to go home.


As a true DJ you have to be willing to cut a girl loose in a
second if she crosses the line. And let her know it. 

When you look directly and potently into a woman's eyes, her body
produces chemicals like phenylethylamine, or PEA, that jolts the
sensation of being in love. 

Unless you're blind, you use your eyes to communicate with women
more than your mouth. 

Warmth is the reason why Danny De Vito gets laid. Lack of warmth
is probably the reason why you don't. 

Always assume the sale. 

You can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy being
single. 

Dmen

shit's messed up!! hahah add that to the list...

Dmen

Currently listening to: TO MY HEAD MAKE UP SOME BULLSHIT PLANS SO I CAN DATE AROUND!!
Currently reading: SO SWABE!
Currently watching: DEYBERT MAKE OUT WITH MACKY WHILE JACKING OFF AND CRYING
Currently feeling: determined

Dmen

ANG KEWL KO NOH??

KEWL DIN AKO!!

Currently watching: EAT BULAGA
Currently feeling: chirful

lemme digress for a while. there may be some things more powerful than voltron, like this vid.

"I will now treat each woman I meet with a passive-aggresive contentiousness that will ruin relationship after relationship for many years to come."

sino kaya tatamaan nito?

Dmen

WHAT TO DO IF YOU'RE IN A SLUMP

We've all been there before. The dreaded Dating Slump.

It's that period where your batting average has dropped to under
.100 and you are facing an average of 3 pitches per at bat. In
other words, you know if you could just get on base you could
score, but you're having problems jump-starting your game.

In this thoughtburst I hope to cover:

1) Reasons why slumps occur.

2) How to get out of a slump.

3) How to avoid getting into a slump in the future.


REASONS WHY SLUMPS OCCUR

There are two types of reasons why you can find yourself in a
slump, things I'll call Surface Reasons and Critical Reasons.

"Surface Reasons" are those that we are most aware of. They are
usually exterior phenomenon that we can easily blame for our
slump. Focusing on Surface Reasons, as we'll see, only leads to
increasing the duration and affect of your slump.


Typical Surface Reasons include (but are not limited to):

1) Getting Dumped/Let's-Just-Be-Friends - Now this doesn't always
happen to lead to a slump, but we've all been there when it has.
Our confidence crashes to a new low, approaching new people seems
laborious, and that happy DJ persona has disappeared almost
completely.

2) Personal Crises - A personal crisis can throw off your game as
well. Things such as loss of a loved one, family crises, loss of
job, or loss of your pet. A personal crisis can have much the
same affect as the above (decreasing confidence) but it can also
cause you to necessarily focus on other events in your life
leading to decreased time spent DJing which takes you away from
your game.

3) Bad Luck - Yep, a streak of simple bad luck can cause your
game to suck. This is especially true for up-n-coming DJs that
are trying to turn their life around, yet find themselves
struggling to get out of the "nice guy" hole they've been digging
for years. You are trying all these new things with no immediate
results. It can be frustrating, and frustration leads to hate,
hate leads to anger, and anger leads to no sex.


On the other hand, "Critical Reasons" are things that you can
control, or are directly under your influence, which contribute
to your slump. I call them Critical Reasons because of this
distinction and the fact that often Critical Reasons provide the
key for escaping the slump.

Critical Reasons usually manifest themselves as Surface Reasons,
and this is why it is necessary to provide a clear distinction.
I'm a firm believer that, in any situation, there is something we
can control to make the outcome more beneficial to us. More on
this later.


Typical Critical Reasons include (but are not limited to):

1) Setting Goals Too High - Especially true for beginner DJs.
Setting unrealistic goals can easily lead to frustration and the
feeling of unattainability. Setting easier goals, and increasing
them incrementally at one's own pace, will slowly increase your
confidence over time. This slow growth will provide for more
secure self-confidence later.

2) Focusing on One Girl - Yep, we've all done this haven't we?
All of a sudden you meet this one girl that just seems to catch
your fancy more than all of the rest. You ignore any other ladies
in your circle, and maybe even your guy friends. You start to
base your dating life around her and her alone. This takes you
out of your game, and if she dumps you or LJBF's you, you've
already entered slumpville pal.

3) Focusing on Women in General - This is perhaps the most common
one for DJs I feel. This web site seems to focus almost
exclusively on how to get women, how to sleep with hot women,
etc. I do not believe this should be the goal of a true DJ. The
focus of a DJ should be on constant self-improvement. This
improvement takes many forms, but ultimately will lead to a DJ
being happier, a better overall person, and as a consequence of
this (for those of you still focused on girls) he will get the
women he wanted to attract in the first place without much effort
at all.


HOW TO GET OUT OF A SLUMP

Ok, so I've given you three Surface Reasons and three Critical
Reasons why slumps can occur. But I'm already in a slump, you
say! What do I do now? Getting out of said slump has two parts.

There are general slump breakers, which can get you out of any
slump with time and effort, and there is the direct way of
attacking the cause of the slump head on. The best approach is a
combination of the two techniques.


"General Slump Breakers"

General Slump Breakers focus on self improvement without
necessarily being directly related to the cause of the slump.
They simply make you feel better about yourself, and work to
improve any of your natural qualities (looks, personality, humor,
etc).

I'm just going to list a few. Most of these should be pretty
obvious as to why they will help.

1) Work out (the MOST important one! It affects your physical
appearance, your testosterone levels, your confidence, and makes
you more energetic and generally feeling better).

2) Find a new Hobby.

3) Find some new Music to replace your typical style.

4) Get out. Do anything if it gets you outside whether it be the
mall or a hike in the mountains.

5) Watch the movie Swingers. Then watch it again. And again.
Until you get it.

6) Improve your Social Interactions - read books on sociology, or
anything that relates to how people interact to boost your social
IQ. Read the 48 Laws of Power. Be friendly to everyone you meet,
say hi and go back to the basics of talking to strangers and
using eye contact.

Ok well you get the idea anyway.


"Specific Slump Breakers"

Specific Slump Breaking requires that you discover the Critical
Reason for the slump. People tend to avoid accepting
responsibility for their fate, and focus on the Surface Reasons
for the slump. If only she hadn't dumped me, they say. Or if only
I'd get one phone number this week.

Surface Reasons are undoubtedly real. However, by themselves they
cannot throw you into a slump. Underneath all the Surface Reasons
you may have, there is at least one Critical Reason that is to
blame. So you got dumped by your girl? Well, you shouldn't focus
so much on one girl then. So you aren't getting as many phone
numbers as you'd like? Lower your expectations, don't set your
goals so high. As a rule, go back to the basics and fix the problem.


In summary, getting out of the slump is as easy as 1, 2, 3:

1) Identify the Critical Reasons for your Slump.

2) Apply General Slump Breakers.

3) Apply Specific Slump Breaking.


HOW TO AVOID GETTING INTO A SLUMP

After reading the rest of this, you should have a pretty good
idea on how to avoid slumps in the future already. Simply being
aware of how a slump occurs and how to break one allows you to
put the breaks on when you see the signs for slumpville steadily
approaching.

Being aware of your attitude and your reaction to every day
events at all times can bring to the front some of your own
personal risk factors that could lead to slumps in the future. If
you realize that a comment someone made to you affects you more
than it should, be aware of that and deal with it. Don't let it
sit. Work on it, fix it. Destroy that weakness by making yourself
stronger and more resilient.

I cannot stress enough that the only person who can get you into
a slump is YOU. No matter what happens, you always have the trump
card to any situation if you know how to play it. The trump card
is ATTITUDE.

Your attitude determines how you will react to a situation, and
can make you or break you. A positive attitude can help you
smoothly sail through the roughest seas. It keeps your confidence
up, and helps prevent frustration, anger, or depression from
accumulating in your system.

Good Luck and Happy Hunting!

Don Juan